Do I see things clearly?

You choose to see all things in the manner of how you decide to see them...What does that mean?

We choose to take the opinion, perspective or judgement upon what is being presented to us. There is a famous saying   "Choose to see what you wish to see reflected in the world" ~ Buddha.    I live by these words!

When I first heard this saying many eons ago, it really hit home for me.  It brought me into a deeper realm of understanding and comprehension about how this marvellous universe works. How my life, my views, my perceptions are my complete responsibility and reality - I simply can choose to view a person or situation in a different light to see and feel something more positive.....I challenge you to take this simple step forward, talk yourself into viewing any situation in which you first perceived a negative impression and look at it more deeply and see if you can pick something positive out of it and focus on that.

I recently had a conversation with someone who walked through my door feeling very heavy...like the world was on her shoulders.  Her body language, tone of voice, energy level all shouted - I am stuck.  I don't believe anyone is really 'stuck'.  There is so much more to life and how our universe works than we can possibility comprehend.  What I do understand is that each and every moment we are awake and alive is one to give blessing to!  Each and every thought or word that is spawned creates our reality!

I knew I had to tread this upcoming conversation lightly,  I first asked what was on her mind, after listening to not only her words, her energy as she spoke her words, I also witnessed her gestures of disgust as she detailed her experience, thoughts and responses.  At first I asked her to be open to hearing me and really listening to my suggestions.  In probing her a bit on a couple different issues it became very clear to me that she was feeling stuck, lost and afraid to accept what was being presented to her as well as a lack of flexibility to make change. The things on her mind was about family issues but as we talked it rolled into family and money issues....then job, housing and it became a finely interwoven overwhelming mess of everything she was perceiving as 'not working' in her life.   It had to do with not wanting what was and there was no commitment to herself on how to change anything.  So I asked for my words to be guided from above as I tried to connect to her by presenting a different point of view of her 'perceived' situations.  I put it like this....It's about how you chose to follow your thoughts, its about how you chose to judge and create an opinion of yourself and others that is making you feel so stuck full of fear.  She was very confused.  As we spoke more I explained that instead of judging others' actions, try to understand what motivates them to do what they do.  Come from a place of heart and compassion in seeing what may drive someone to do or be in a destructive or hurtful way.  I am not implying that you put up with abuse in any way...I am suggesting you take your ego out of the way and understand how to 'see' things more clearly. For example:  You need to lose some weight, not only to look better but to feel better and be in better health. You may look at yourself  and only see what you are not, vs. what you are. You may only see that bulge hanging over your pants as you sit down.  You may only feel how tight your new skirt is around your hips and as you think that you are starting to crave coffee and those M & M's in your purse - (which is your body's way of trying to release feel good hormones through stimulants).

Well, what I am asking is for you to see that a few pounds are not what to focus on.  Turn your attention to learning about what foods to eat more of and avoid in order to lose those few pounds.  What will work and change your feelings and reality is to turn that depressive thought pattern into a new way to look at situations that challenges you. Stop thinking about what isn’t and focus on what is and what you can do.  Also, turning your attention to gratitude and appreciation works miracles in shifting your mood. Give simple gratitude to what works and is good and to realize that life will only change, your personal world will and can change with your attention and focus on positive action steps to achieve goals and circumstances for yourself.

Have you ever thought that you do not deserve the crap in your life that feels heavy and hard to deal with?  Well start telling yourself you deserve more and reach for it!

I am sure you have talked yourself into doing things, such as getting that needle when all you did was think of the needle prick hurting you..

Try to use this same psychology but reverse it.  Talk yourself into positive thoughts about everything.  I am capable, I can do it, I do deserve better, I am great!
 
If you are having money troubles - focus on asking for answers. Do you need to get a part time job for a while to help pay some bills? Can you not go out and eat for a couple months?
Relationship issues - focus and think of good times and ask for more of them - change the way you react - get out of that vicious circle of reacting the same way.  Tell yourself to remain calm and listen more. 
Career or job troubles - be proactive in exploring what jazzes you and open yourself up to the idea of change to be more fulfilled.  Bring in gratitude that you are employed and give thanks to that.
Communication issues with people - witness what you are projecting when you speak to others, take note of your tone, words and attitude.  If it is negative, than make a conscious effort to be deliberate with your intention, tone and responses. Perhaps if you are in a loud conversation - tell yourself to keep a low tone and witness how it calms the situation down.
Overweight? - take responsibility in knowing what foods are better for you and eat more of them and less of the sugar, fat and empty carbs. One day at a time!
If you feel judged by others - take a look on how you judge yourself and others...you will be surprised.  No one has the right to judge.
Drink clean water throughout the day - it is pure energy!
Learn to breath deeply...it will and can change your energy level and perspective

As I concluded my conversation with this women, she left feeling empowered and she seemed to be contemplating positive changes she can make in order to make a difference within her life instead of dwelling on what others did to her or what they failed to do for her…  Little does she realize that once she starts changing her thinking habits circumstances and issues her life will shift.   As long as you remain grounded, continue to talk yourself into seeing the positive side to any situation, you will make good progress.